Rehab is Not Accidental
Know the truth about what it takes for recovery and act in keeping with what is right. There has to be a change in direction, an honest look at meeting of legitimate needs, and a serious effort to take responsibility for what you can. Recovery is always intentional and is based on commitment, not on how you feel. You have to work through the pain no matter what the problem was that put you in the ditch. Gain new awareness that leads to new patterns with the goal of preventing further accidents as you seek to rekindle the love between you.
Remember that Time Heals
Whether your marriage seemed to unravel slowly or through a sudden moment of careless and selfish stupidity, rebuilding will take time – more time than you think. Never doubt whether it will be worth the effort. It always is but you will have to be patient with your self and your spouse. Restoring of trust and credibility is a process. Extending and experiencing forgiveness is a series of many steps. Submitting to accountability and outside coaching isn’t easy. Respect that time heals but that recovery is a journey…a long journey but a good one.
Trust a Great Physician
Marital collisions require significant strength and insight to bring recovery. There is no doubt that God can and will bring the perspective and the courage you need as a couple to sustain you. All you need to do is ask Him. When the way is rough, your hope is thin and the worst seems inevitable, He will help you in doing marriage and family right. I have yet to see a marriage that has hit the ditch go to the wreckers when both hearts in the marriage are soft towards God. Braid Him into your recovery. You’ll never regret putting your marriage and family first. Dave Currie